about me writing pictures videos links myspace calendar contact  

Thursday, January 24, 2008

BLANTON: So if someone says, "God, you look tall," do you get offended by it still?

STADTMILLER: I don't get annoyed. It's just boring. It's like going up to a black person and saying, "You're really black. What's it like being so black?"

BLANTON: Well boredom is anger and you haven't expressed your anger sufficiently to all those other people that ask you about being tall. You still have a lot of resentment about people judging you as tall and probably some resentment about being tall. So when someone says, "What's it like being so tall?" just say, "F--- you! Eat s--- and die and I resent you for saying I'm so tall."

STADTMILLER: (Laughs) But then wouldn't that just foster the resentment?

BLANTON: No. You have to be a little patient now. It'll get you through the process that allows you to not be bothered by it one way or the other -

STADTMILLER: If I say, "I resent you for saying that," then I would appear like this easily hurt social leper.

BLANTON: You're worried about how you would appear, see? That's what you think your identity is. It doesn't matter how you appear. You'll appear differently in another half a minute anyway because people's registry of how you appear changes very dynamically. For a while you appear to be a leper of some sort and a little while later you'll appear to be someone who's very brave and willing to talk about things honestly. Later on you'll appear as a kind of person to be trusted because you're not going to be withholding from them all the time. Give it a shot and see.

...That exchange is from my lengthy interview with "radical honesty" pioneer Brad Blanton which you can read as a nypost.com extra here.

And the feature for The Post about being radically honest for a day can be found here.

(Also - if you enjoyed either of these, I highly recommend reading A.J. Jacobs' hilarious account of participating in this movement for Esquire here.)



Home | About Me | Writing | Pictures | Videos | Links | MySpace | Calendar | Contact